My Surrogacy Story: Charli
Charli, Brisbane. I'm a single mum of four older kids and one mini human. I was a surrogate for a straight couple, with one child already, carried by mum. However, a medical condition meant [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 46: Kim
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 46: Kim. Kim pursued surrogacy in the Ukraine. Kim has been through a hell of a ride to get to this point in her surrogacy journey. Infertility, IVF, donor eggs, and finally surrogacy in the [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 45: Simone
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 45: Simone. Sometimes it takes a village to create a child, and in this case it took a cast of 10 people. Simone delivered a baby as a surrogate for intended parents in Adelaide, and [...]
Surrogacy Milestones & Celebrations
When most people have a child, they celebrate milestones like a Baby Shower, and later the birth, and then Birthdays, and Mother's and Father's Days, without having to consult or think about anyone outside their own household or immediate family. [...]
Do Surrogates Get Paid in Australia?
The number one question that every surrogate is asked is "how much do you get paid?" And whilst we expect the question, and can even understand why someone may ask, the question itself can hurt, and undermine the altruism of [...]
My Surrogacy Story: Bree
Bree, nurse. I live in Central Victoria and I’m a married with three primary school aged daughters and two teenage step children. I gave birth to a surrogate baby for same sex, interstate IP’s [...]
My Surrogacy Story: Susan
Susan, Customer Service and Account Manager. I live in Brisbane, am a mother of three adult children and I've been married for 22 years. I became a surrogate because I wanted to be able to [...]
My Surrogacy Story: Melonie
Melonie, Administrative Assistant I live in Launceston, Tasmania with my 5 year old daughter Poppi. I became a surrogate because I really enjoyed being pregnant with my own child and selfishly, wanted to have [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 44: Jessica
Jessica gave birth as a surrogate for her friend Bec, who suffered with cystic fibrosis, and Bec's partner Gareth. You might like to listen to Gareth's episode, which tells the story of how Bec sadly passed away whilst Jess was [...]
Submissions to The Amazing Surrogacy Project
Welcome to the Amazing Surrogacy Project. You can make a submission to the Project by emailing sarah@sarahjefford.com with answers to the following questions: First name, location, family make-up, occupation… I was a surrogate and gave birth [date] to [baby boy/girl/name] [...]
My Surrogacy Story: Michelle
Michelle, doula. I am married with two kids, living in Perth. I was a surrogate and gave birth in 2019 to Jack for Kate & Kris. I became a surrogate because I loved being pregnant [...]
My Surrogacy Story: Sarah
Sarah, Lawyer. I am married with two children, and live in Melbourne. I was a traditional surrogate for two dads and gave birth to a baby girl in 2018. I became a surrogate because [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 43: Shannon
Episode 43 of the Australian Surrogacy Podcast: Shannon. Shannon Garner has been a surrogate, not once but twice for a lovely gay couple in NSW. Shannon went on to write about her first surrogacy experience and is now a published [...]
Commercial Surrogacy and Parentage Orders
People entering into commercial surrogacy overseas are often anxious to know about returning home to Australia with their baby, any consequences, and whether they need to get court orders when they return to Australia. Parentage Orders are made to transfer [...]
Milk and Feeding a Surrogacy Baby
Milk and Feeding of Surrogacy Baby Most new parents have to grapple with learning how to feed their newborn and making the right decisions for the family. When you add in surrogacy, it can take on a whole other level [...]
Do I Qualify for Surrogacy in Australia?
Do I qualify for surrogacy in Australia? The first step when determining whether, as an intended parent, you qualify for surrogacy in Australia, is to work out which laws apply to you. The laws of the State where the intended [...]
Surrogacy in the ACT
Surrogacy in the Australian Capital Territory is regulated by the Parentage Act 2004. If you are an intended parent living in the ACT, then the surrogacy laws that apply to you are those of the Australian Capital Territory. This is [...]
Donor Agreements
Donor Agreements involve an agreement between a donor and recipient parent/s that clarifies the relationships and expectations between the parties. They are often used between sperm donors and their donor recipients, and not so often with egg donors. The reasons [...]
Surrogacy in South Australia
Surrogacy in South Australia. If you are an intended parent living in South Australia or a surrogate carrying for South Australian intended parents, the Family Relationships Act 1975 applies to you. The criteria for surrogacy in SA includes: That the [...]
Surrogacy in the Northern Territory
Surrogacy in the Northern Territory is neither legal or illegal. This is because there are no surrogacy laws in the Northern Territory at all. All the States and the ACT have their own surrogacy laws, but the NT has none. [...]
Gestational Surrogacy in Australia
Gestational surrogacy, in which the surrogate is not the genetic mother of the baby she is carrying, is the most common form of surrogacy both in Australia and overseas. Gestational surrogacy is different from Traditional Surrogacy, where the surrogate conceives [...]
Surrogacy in Western Australia
Surrogacy in Western Australia If you are an intended parent living in Western Australia or a surrogate carrying for Western Australia intended parents, the Surrogacy Act 2008 applies to you. The criteria for surrogacy in WA includes: That the intended [...]
Surrogacy in Queensland
If you are an intended parent living in Queensland or a surrogate carrying for Queensland intended parents, the Surrogacy Act 2010 applies to you. The criteria for surrogacy in QLD includes: That the intended parents have a social or medical [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 42: Bree
Episode 42 of the Australian Surrogacy Podcast: Bree. Bree was a gestational surrogate, delivering baby Haesel in 2017 for her dads. This year, Bree is attempting to fall pregnant as a traditional surrogate for the same parents. Bree's intended parents [...]
Planning a Surrogacy Birth
When planning a surrogacy, the team should think of the birth and how they will navigate the hospital system to support their surrogacy birth. Surrogates will have their own experiences of birth and have ideas of how they envision the [...]
Surrogacy in Tasmania
If you are an intended parent living in Tasmania or a surrogate carrying for Tasmanian intended parents, the Surrogacy Act 2012 applies to you. The criteria for surrogacy in Tasmania includes: That the intended parents have a social or medical [...]
Kids and Surrogacy
Kids and surrogacy - complex problem or privileged experience? I'm often asked about my children's responses to me being a surrogate, and for advice about preparing children for surrogacy. My kids were taught fairly early that sperm+egg+uterus=baby. They're still learning [...]
Surrogacy in New South Wales
Surrogacy in New South Wales is regulated by the Surrogacy Act 2010. If you are an intended parent living in NSW, then the surrogacy laws that apply to you are those of New South Wales. This is the case, even [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 41: Gail
Episode 41 of The Australian Surrogacy Podcast: Gail Pascoe. Gail is a mother of a donor-conceived child and has been writing about her experiences of donor parenting on her blog, Donor Conception and Beyond. She started writing about donor conception [...]
Surrogacy in Victoria
Surrogacy is legal in Victoria, and every State in Australia. Victorian surrogacy arrangements are regulated by the Assisted Reproductive Treatment Act 2008. The law is currently being reviewed, and expected to be reformed in the coming year. The criteria for [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 40: Anna and Surrogacy Australia’s Support Service
Anna McKie is the Surrogate/IP Support Manager at Surrogacy Australia, helping to launch the Support Service (SASS) which is now up and running. This episode provides an overview of the SASS, what's involved and outlining the benefits for surrogates and intended [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 39: Cara
Episode 39 of the Australian Surrogacy Podcast: Cara, a transgender woman pursuing surrogacy. In celebrating Transgender Day of Visibility, this podcast episode is with transgender woman Cara. Cara, together with her partner, is pursuing surrogacy to have a child. They've [...]
Frequently Asked Questions
Wondering if surrogacy is legal in Australia? Thinking about pursuing surrogacy to grow your family? Thinking about being a surrogate to help someone grow theirs? Here's some answers to questions you might have. Don't forget to download your free copy [...]
DIY Parentage Order: You Can Do It!
Do you want to do your Parentage Order yourself? By the time you have your baby in your arms, you’ve spent considerable money on IVF, legal expenses, counselling and pregnancy and birth expenses for your surrogate…not to mention decorating the [...]
So You Want to Be a Surrogate?
Do you want to be a surrogate? I remember when I first considered becoming a surrogate - searching everywhere for information and ending up down many an internet rabbit hole. I was excited and nervous; my husband was skeptical. How [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 38: Miranda
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 38: Miranda. Miranda is an amazing story teller, so you can understand why I barely said a word in this interview. She is an egg donor recipient, a mum through surrogacy, and had a heart [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 37: Kate from VARTA
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 37: Kate from VARTA. Kate Bourne is the Donor Services Manager at the Victorian Assisted Reproductive Treatment Authority (VARTA), which provides independent information and support for individuals, couples, and health professionals on fertility, infertility, assisted reproductive [...]
Money Talks, But What If We Don’t Like the Conversation?
It is a fact universally known, that altruistic surrogates don't like to talk about money. We don't like asking for money, and we'd rather spend our own money than burden our intended parents. We feel that any talk about money [...]
Feminism & Altruistic Surrogacy
A core belief of any feminist, is that a woman has the right to full bodily autonomy. That includes reproductive autonomy; the right to determine if and when she has children, how many, and the right to make decisions about [...]
Egg Donation
Egg donation is one of those topics that garners interest on social media occasionally, and warrants a warm fuzzy headline now and again, but good quality information and resources are lacking. There are restrictions on advertising for an egg donor, [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 36: Amber
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast: Episode 36: Amber. Amber first heard about egg donation before she had her own children, and has now donated to nine families, resulting in 7 children so far. Many of the recipients also needed a surrogate [...]
Surrogate Partners: The Unsung Heroes
There's a few heroes in the story of surrogacy - but none more unassuming than the surrogate's partner. Our partners don't ask to go down this path, and the rewards for them are few and far between. But their support [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 35: Paul & Jaryd
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 35: Paul and Jaryd, future gay dads. Paul and Jaryd are a gay couple living in Brisbane, and are part-way through their surrogacy with a traditional surrogate, Charli. They share their story wisdom for finding [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 34: Danny
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 34: Danny. Danny is one of those unsung heroes in surrogacy - the surrogate's partner. I've interviewed his lovely wife Emmy and the intended parents Henry and Lisa. Danny is like many partners of surrogates, [...]
The Fourth Surro-Trimester
The Fourth Trimester Many people haven’t heard of the ‘fourth trimester,’ let alone when it applies in a surrogacy arrangement. The fourth trimester refers to the first three months after a baby is born when baby is going through a [...]
Will the Surrogate Keep the Baby?
One of the first questions asked by intended parents considering surrogacy in Australia is "What if she wants to keep the baby?" And one of the first questions asked by a surrogate and her partner is "What if they don't [...]
Joe Donor and the Consequences of Online Conception
Sperm donation options in Australia vary from friends and family, to online connections or clinic-recruited donors. If you watched 60 Minutes recently you'd know all about Joe Donor - the American man who claims to have donated sperm to over 800 [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 33: Marnie: Post Surrogacy Reflections
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 33: Marnie B. Marnie B spoke to me back in Episode 21, when she was heading into the third trimester of her pregnancy with surro-bub. In our first interview, Marnie talked about all the preparation [...]
The Importance of Surrogacy Birth Photography
Birth photography is an art form. You only need to search #birthphoto on Instagram and find out how popular, and amazing it can be. I would have liked to have a birth photographer for my first two births, but we [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 32: Katrina Hale
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 32: Katrina Hale, surrogacy counsellor. She's been described as the guardian angel of altruistic surrogates across Australia. Really, how could I not have her on the Podcast with a commendation like that? Katrina Hale is a [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 31: Emmy
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 31: Emmy. When growing her own family, Emmy struggled with gender disappointment and when she finally fell pregnant with a baby girl, she promised herself that she would repay the universe somehow. She looked for [...]
Kickin’ back with the Kickbacks
Intended Parents may be forgiven for thinking that everyone they talk to about surrogacy has their best interests at heart. If someone seems kind, knowledgeable and generous, surely they're only wanting to help you have a baby, right? But, surrogacy [...]
Pursuing Surrogacy as a Gay Dad
Gay dads are growing in numbers around Australia as they pursue surrogacy to grow their families. The media is buzzing with news that Ian Thorpe and his partner Ryan Channing, are planning to have a baby via surrogacy. Channing was [...]
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 30: Anna
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 30: Anna. "I wanted to do something big in life..." So decided Anna, a South Australian teacher and mother of two, as she launched herself into the world of egg donation and surrogacy. In this [...]
One Year On
Surro-baby, Darcey, turned one last weekend. Her dads threw her a party, of course, and like all first birthdays, it was more of an anniversary for the parents than it was a party for the baby. An anniversary of survival, [...]
How Do I Find a Surrogate in Australia?
How do I find a surrogate in Australia? So you've decided to explore surrogacy as an option to grow your family. You've done some google searches and are finding the information-overload a bit overwhelming. Rest assured, you're not alone and [...]
8 Tips to a Positive Surrogacy Journey
Altruistic surrogacy is one of the most complex and amazing journeys you'll ever take, regardless of whether you're the surrogate team or the intended parent team. Even when things go right, they can still be difficult, and every team faces [...]
Why Surrogacy Agreements are not like Contracts, and How to Write Your Own
A surrogacy agreement is not the same as a commercial contract. The elements of a basic contract include (1) an offer, (2) acceptance, (3) consideration (usually money) and (4) an intention to create a legal relationship. For example, you offer to buy [...]
The Sisterhood
Surrogates are like sisters. Surrogacy is a unique and special journey, not just for the intended parents, but for the women privileged enough to carry a baby for someone else. It's an unusual thing to do, and most people don't [...]
Egg Donation: Seeing Yourself In Someone Else’s Child
My partner and I are parents-through-IVF; survivors of infertility who inevitably became overbearing parents to our precious offspring. Archie was born after 7 embryo transfers, and he was our lucky last. Shortly after Archie’s second birthday, we conceived his brother, [...]
Do I need a Surrogacy Broker?
Do you need a surrogacy broker or consultant? Surrogacy is bit like Project Management. In fact, by the time you’re home with your baby, you’ll feel like you deserve a PhD in international relations and event management. You did all that [...]
Gift Giving in Altruistic Surrogacy Arrangements
One of the first questions asked by surrogates and intended parents, is whether the intended parents can give gifts to their surrogate, or her family members, without compromising the surrogacy agreement or the Parentage Order application. And what sort of [...]
Overseas Surrogacy
Do you need an Australian lawyer to assist you with your overseas surrogacy journey? The short answer is, mostly not. You can engage a lawyer in your destination country, who will guide you through the Surrogacy and Donor Agreements. You [...]
Applying for a Parentage Order
After a baby is born through an Australian surrogacy arrangement, a Parentage Order is required to transfer parentage from the surrogate and her partner to the intended parents. When the baby is born, the surrogate and her partner register the [...]
Parenting Orders and Parentage Orders
Parentage Orders are made to transfer parentage from a surrogate and her partner, to the intended parents. These are made in State Courts. These Orders provide for the Birth Certificate to be changed, removing the surrogate and her partner, and [...]
Episode 29: Rebecca F
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast episode 29: Rebecca. Rebecca is an intended parent, having come to surrogacy after requiring a hysterectomy after the birth of her second child. Rebecca found her surrogate in her good friend Katy, after she posted about [...]
Traditional Surrogacy
Traditional surrogacy is where a surrogate uses her own eggs to conceive, with sperm from an Intended Father or from a donor. It is different from gestational surrogacy, where the surrogate becomes pregnant with an embryo created with an egg [...]
Episode 28: The ARTA Review in Victoria
In this episode, Sarah chats about the current Review in the Assisted Reproductive Treatment Act in Victoria. Submissions are open now, and close on 21 September. If you are interested in more information, or want to know more about Surrogacy [...]
Surrogacy Laws in Australia
Surrogacy Laws Australia Are you exploring your options for growing your family through surrogacy? Below is an overview of Australian surrogacy laws as they stand today. Surrogacy in Australia is regulated in each State, which means there is no uniform [...]
Episode 27: NT Surrogacy Laws with Rebecca
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 27: NT surrogacy laws with Rebecca. Rebecca is a Darwin woman who would like to be a surrogate - but, as she's discovered, the NT doesn't have any surrogacy laws. This means it's virtually impossible [...]
Altruistic Surrogacy: How Much Does it Cost?
Intended parents are always keen to know how much surrogacy will cost them. There are so many variables depending on individual circumstances, so it can be hard to give an exact answer to that question. Intended Parents should expect to [...]
Episde 26: Renee (Part 2)
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 26 (Part 2): Renee. Renee shares her second surrogacy journey with us, with different intended parents. Renee and her partner approached the journey with the benefit of their first experience, but they were met with [...]
Episode 26: Renee (Part 1)
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 26 (Part 1): Renee. Renee tells us the story of her first surrogacy journey, including the ups and downs that eventually resulted in the birth of Ethan for his intended parents. This is Part 1 [...]
Episode 25: Gareth
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Epsiode 25: Gareth. Gareth became a father through surrogacy in January 2018, with the birth of his son Rixon. Gareth's surrogate was Jess, who was a great friend of Gareth's wife, Bec. Sadly, Bec passed away [...]
Written Surrogacy Agreements
Surrogacy arrangements can be written into formal Agreements between the surrogate and her partner, and the intended parents. Some states require surrogacy arrangements to have a written agreement, whilst other States do not require it but the parties might be [...]
Episode 24: Ben
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 24: Ben. Gay dads Ben and Terry live in Queensland, and they became dads when their surrogate, Kath, gave birth to baby Ivy. Kath lives in Victoria, and despite the distance between them, this team [...]
Episode 23: Rachel (Part 3)
This is Part 3 of a 3-part episode with Rachel. In Part 3, we hear about Rachel's final surrogacy pregnancy, with baby Matilda, for her parents Marian and David.
Episode 23: Rachel (Part 2)
This is part 2 of a 3-part interview with Rachel. In this episode, Rachel talks about finding her final intended parents, Marian and David, and their journey to the birth of baby Hugo. Unfortunately, Hugo was diagnosed late in the [...]
Episode 23: Rachel (Part 1)
This is Part 1 in a 3-part episode with Rachel, a surrogate who has delivered 5 babies for their intended parents. In this episode, Rachel tells her story of starting as an egg donor, and then as a traditional surrogate. [...]
Episode 22: Steve
Steve is a father through surrogacy, and he and his wife Jen welcomed baby Holly in 2016. I interviewed Steve and Jen's surrogate, Bec, earlier in the podcast. Steve reflects on his journey as an intended father, and managing the [...]
Episode 21: Marnie B
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 21: Marnie B. Marnie B is a gestational surrogate for interstate intended parents. Marnie and her team did a mammoth amount of research and preparation prior to proceeding with the arrangement, and the preparation is [...]
Episode 20: Sarah & Anna present at the Surrogacy Conference
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 20: Sarah and Anna. Sarah and Anna presented this session to the Australian Surrogacy Conference in June. You'll hear from Sarah with a broad overview of the surrogacy process in Australia, and then you'll hear [...]
Episode 19: Charmaine
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Epsiode 19: Charmaine. Charmaine was a gestational surrogate and birthed James for his parents in 2017. Not everything was sunshine and rainbows, and Charmaine has a lot of wisdom for other intended parents and surrogates. If [...]
Episode 18: Amanda
Amanda was a traditional surrogate for her friends Dhusk and Tim, and gave birth to Sailor earlier this year. Traditional surrogacy, where a surrogate uses her own egg, is less common than gestational surrogacy, and can be a different dynamic [...]
Episode 17: Sara from Canada
Sara is a Canadian gestational surrogate for Australian intended parents. She gave birth to baby Logan in January, and recently traveled to Australia and spent time with Logan and his parents. She also attend the Australian Surrogacy Conference and supported [...]
Episode 16: Brett & Stuart
Brett and Stuart conceived baby Findlay with the help of a surrogacy in Canada. But things did not go to plan, and Findlay had to arrive at 25 weeks, due to his surrogate suffering with pre-eclampsia. As a result, Brett [...]
Episode 15: Sarah and Sheridon
Sarah Jefford sat down and chatted with Sheridon Byrne, a Melbourne-based Doula, to talk about Sarah's surrogacy journey. Sheridon provides Doula services to the queer community, and we talked about how surrogacy can be an option to grow a family. [...]
Surrogacy in Australia – an Overview
Surrogacy within Australia is regulated in each State, which means there are no uniform laws that cover surrogacy across the country. Surrogacy laws in all States follow the same basic principles: The Intended Parents must not be able to either [...]
Episode 14: Henry & Lisa
Henry and Lisa suffered with infertility and turned to surrogacy to grow their family. Henry & Lisa are well-known in the surrogacy community, both for their support of other intended parents and surrogates, but also for their senses of humour. [...]
Episode 13: Marnie
Marnie is a cancer survivor and is now considering surrogacy as an option to grow her family. Marnie has some great insights for people considering surrogacy and leaning on the friendships you can build in the community. [...]
Episode 12: Kate
Kate is a gestational surrogate for a gay couple, Mike & Glenn (listen to their story at Episode 10). Kate is due to give birth any day now, and in this episode you'll hear all about her plans for a [...]
Episode 11: Hillary
Hillary is a cancer survivor, having suffered with cancer as a single mother, and when she met her prince charming years later, they decided to grow their family through surrogacy. I am always inspired and humbled when I hear stories [...]
Episode 10: Mike & Glenn
Mike and Glenn are gay dads that pursued surrogacy overseas, but after hitting roadblocks and ultimately not having any success, they turned to Australian surrogacy - and are now eagerly awaiting the birth of their daughter, with the help of [...]
Episode 9: Phillipa
Phillipa survived cervical cancer, and managed to create eggs from grafted ovarian tissue, and embryos with donated sperm. She's now eagerly awaiting the birth of her baby with the help of a surrogate living on the other side of Australia. [...]
Episode 8: Hayley
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 8: Hayley. Hayley is a gestational surrogate, and she and her intended parents all live in WA. Not everything went smoothly in Hayley's surrogacy journey, and particularly during the last trimester. Hayley has some great [...]
Episode 7: Carla (Part 2)
Traditional surrogacy is not as common as gestational surrogacy. This is Part 2 of my interview with Carla. Carla talked about her journey as an egg donor in Part 1; in Part 2 she tells us how she leaped from [...]
Episode 7: Carla (Part 1)
This is a 2-part episode with Carla, an egg donor and a traditional surrogate. Carla has donated her eggs to 8 couples! In this episode we explore her egg donations and her reasons for donating, and hear all about her [...]
Episode 6: Felicity (Part 2)
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Episode 6 (Part2): Felicity. This is Part 2 of my interview with Felicity. Felicity is an intended parent and pursued surrogacy in the US after suffering infertility and loss. Make sure to listen to Part 1 [...]
Episode 6: Felicity (Part 1)
This is Part 1 of my interview with Felicity, a parent through surrogacy in America. Felicity and her partner suffered with infertility, miscarriage and the loss of her baby daughter Lily, before eventually having a child through surrogacy in the [...]
Episode 5: Rhiannon
The Australian Surrogacy Podcast Epsiode 5: Rhiannon In this episode you'll hear from the sensational Rhiannon, who was a gestational surrogate for her brother and his partner not once, but twice - and is planning on doing it again! Listen [...]